I’m a hugger. Would you give yourself that label too? There’s nothing quite like the loving feeling of being hugged just as tightly back as the hug you give out. I don’t care for those 3 quick pats on the back version of hugs, the awkward one armed side hug, the fragile hug where you barely even hug and you think you are going to break the other person, or the Jimmy Johns freaky fast hug where it’s over before you know it. There are so many different types of hugs and huggers out there, but when you meet a good hugger, oh yeah, it makes everything better in that single moment.
For those of you who love a good bear hug or those who prefer the freaky fast version, where do you think that stems from? Is it the way you were raised, perhaps the way your family did it, or the friends you grew up with?
Mine is definitely all about my family! Whenever the Beilke Bunch gets together there is a guaranteed hug fest when you walk in the door or when you leave. Depending on how many people are home in my family, this can take 3 minutes or up to 10 minutes of exchanging hugs in the kitchen! Just the other night I was leaving my brother’s house and everyone had to give a hug to EVERYONE before you could leave.
It’s the unspoken family tradition – the Beilke Bunch Hug fest.
This includes all the munchkins all the way down to age 1 as well. And if you by chance missed a hug inside before you walked out the door, no worries, because we continue the hug fest all the way to the cars if anyone was missed.
I used to think everyone was this way. You know, everyone hugs as soon as they see each other, don’t they? Honestly, it wasn’t until a couple years ago that I finally realized not everyone is all about the hugs. Initially, I couldn’t imagine someone not loving a good hug, but then again, not everyone is raised the same way and hugs honestly can make people feel extremely uncomfortable and completely awkward if they aren’t used to them.
Hugs are so much more than just a warm embrace though. A hug can say a million different things without you or the other person actually saying a single word.
I recently experienced this when my grandmother passed away. The day we got the call she was gone, a couple of my brothers and their families and I were getting together. We all needed to be surrounded by family that day. As soon as I got there – you guessed it, I was greeted with hugs. The whole time we were hanging out though no one mentioned anything about grandma being gone now, although I’m sure we all felt the looming feeling throughout the afternoon. Later when I was getting ready to leave, after all my nieces gave me big jumping hugs, my brother and I hugged. Then the tears started flowing and flowing even more, we held on tighter and longer than any other hug I’ve ever had, and yet not a single word was exchanged, but we both knew what it meant.
That hug said everything. It said I’m here for you, I miss grandma too, this is hard, I love you, we will be okay, she’s in heaven now and she is out of pain, this isn’t easy, I know you’re scared, we’ve got each other, we are family. That hug said it all.
A single hug speaks a thousand words without a single word actually being spoken.
Hugs are one of the core values I have because it’s tied directly into love & caring. Loving & caring for others and for myself is at the core of who I am. Hugs are a part of who I am. The decisions I make in my life on a day to day basis stem from a loving perspective (most of the time). Yes, there are plenty of times where I get upset and frustrated too, but remembering love and giving a good hug turns that all around.
Maybe love is a core value of yours too? Maybe you are confused about what your core values are and what makes you who you are? It changes your entire life completely when you know who you are and what you stand for. Your values are your guiding compass of your life. They are the starting point to pursuing your passion. They are the single biggest piece of what makes you decide what and how you are going to live each day of your life. Think about it. What are your core desired values? Maybe hugging is one of yours too?
I created this guide to help you narrow in on what your core desired values are and I’m excited to be sharing it with you now! I believe this is so important to know about yourself in creating the life you’ve always wanted that I made it completely free for you to access. You can pick yours up here and I truly want you to get a copy of it for yourself! Take time to get to know you and what makes you irresistible to be around.
So tell me – are you a hugger? Do you know a good hugger? Share in the comments below. The single best hugger I know is my sweet grandma Anna Mae. Ever since I can remember, she has given me the most loving and sincere hugs I could ever imagine accompanied with a kiss on the cheek whenever I see her. She makes anyone who walks into her cozy little Minnesota home feel loved without having to say a single word.
Hugs & Mochas,