At this point in my life, most of my closest friends have been married for years already, are fresh into the married scene, engaged, or are in long term relationships just on the edge of an engagement. HOWEVER, I do have some of my lovely single friends still out there, hanging in their twenties or thirties with me, who have had endless conversations with me about dating, their married friends, and everything in between. Have you ever wanted a little glimpse into the whirlwind of thoughts that race through your single gal pal’s mind? Well, here you go!
An open confession to my married friends from your single gal pal
♥ Sometimes we don’t like being the ONLY single person in the group of friends and may pass up on hanging out with the group to stay home and watch reruns of FRIENDS with a big ole glass of wine instead
Please don’t pressure us to come or make us feel guilty for not wanting to hang out that night. Sometimes we just need a one night break from making the group an odd number and driving ourselves to dinner. We truly adore you and the rest of our friend group, but sometimes, just like family, we could use a little break.
♥ Other times we have gotten so good at being the third wheel that it doesn’t even phase us anymore
Thanks for letting us tag along and third wheelin it with you! In most cases we have gotten so used to hanging out with the two of you as a couple that we consider you both awesome friends to go grab a drink with or catch a new movie release with. You guys are fun, we are fun, and that’s why we do the whole third wheel thing without even noticing it!
♥ You have taught us so many lessons in what it takes to have a strong & loving marriage
We have witnessed what true love is because of you and your spouse. We have witnessed the hiccups you’ve had along the way. In many cases we are the person you turn to for help, guidance, or advice in these situations. AND because of you and what you have shared with us, you have given us faith in what happily ever after could look like. We admire who you are with your spouse and how you guys “do life” together.
♥ Girls days & ladies nights are important to us. We know you’re busy and it seems more convenient to just invite everyone to the hang out session, but sometimes we just want to be with the girls -> no guys attached.
We want to watch chick flicks, hit up the wine bar, talk about the cutest little clothing boutique that recently opened up, and just chit chat it out with our girls.
♥ We became friends before you ever got engaged or married. We didn’t change. Can we please stay connected?
You’re busy, we are busy, but I’m sorry just because you have a husband doesn’t mean you can’t hang out anymore.
♥ Please don’t ask us if we’ve started dating anyone new every single time we hang out.
We are fully aware we are far behind where most people would expect us to be at our age of being in our late twenties already. The pressure is already there from our families at every single get together or phone call with grandma. We’ve run out of excuses or explanations. It makes us feel inadequate when you always ask. If we could change it, we would. But it’s God’s timing, not ours, so why not ask us about the 1000 other things we’re passionate about for once instead?
♥ Please don’t tell us to put ourselves out there one more time.
Okay sometimes we do need a gentle push, but honestly dating is exhausting. When you go on so many dates where you can’t keep one guy’s story straight from another you need a break. If we get asked one more time at the end of a date by the guy if we should do this again? That’s awkward. There are just so many awkward moments in dating that we sometimes need a break from. You would too if you went on a first date where the guy orders ONE milkshake and TWO straws and you’ve known him for all of 10 minutes before your face is inches away from his. Uffda
♥ If one more married friend asks us if we want to get married one day we might just belt out Single Ladies Beyonce Style (So Kidding! Kinda…)
Heck yes, we want to get married! We want someone to share all of life’s amazing moments with. We want to love someone fully and be loved back unconditionally. We want someone to run the race of life with until the very end. We want someone who laughs at our dorky jokes, enjoys exploring our city together or going on adventures with. We want someone who wants to stay at home on a Friday night with us to watch Shark Tank or someone who enjoys hanging out with our crazy group of friends. WE SO WANT THAT.
Here’s the deal, I was at one of my dearest friend’s weddings last weekend and it was one of the most beautiful displays of love out there. She had a glow about her the entire ceremony & reception. And when I asked the groom at the end of the night on the dance floor what the best part of the wedding was he goes, “After all of this is done, tomorrow morning I get to wake up next to my wife… *pause*…. She’s my WIFE. That’s the best part.” The way he looked at her across the dance floor when he paused made my heart melt.
Whether you’re married or single or somewhere in between, all the confessions of your single gal pals don’t really matter. What matters is love. Love breaks all boundaries. Love gives hope. Love perseveres. Regardless of what stage of your own love story you are currently in, if we could all love big and openly show even strangers more love, it would make a difference in this world. Let’s all throw some love bombs out there this week and give more love.
Hugs & Mochas,